Mood: Relaxed and ready for the weekend
Location: Our room with blinds drawn up to let lights in
Me and Meng had a fight couple of days back. It started with him rejecting me and I went all crazy and didn't talk to him. Laid all cards and told him I'm fed up of him rejecting me and Zeddy and doing nothing but focusing on his work and studies. Told him all my frustrations about the house, about the parents, about time and everything else.
We went dinner and talked. We cried. We got angry at each other. We shouted. We did not care were not the only people in the restaurant. We poured everything all out. Then, we mended things. We came up with a plan and agreed on compromises. Were gonna save up for our house. Were gonna clean the house to avoid clutter that I dont want. He's gonna spend Sundays with me and Zeddy. At the end of the day, there's resolution to every issue if it's well presented and understood by all parties.
To all reading this post especially to parents, husbands and wife - it's a proven fact that talking things out when you both are not on fire irons out creases in your relationship. Either you work out with a plan or agree that nothing wont work. For us, don't think the latter is an option given my husband is a very rational person and listens to even the most ridiculous reasonings on things and explain to you how it is ridiculous. Then, it's up to me to understand and accept that sometimes, I am indeed ridiculous.
He stressed that we women are very difficult to understand. But he said he's willing to compromise, leave it as that and do what he can to work things out. I am one lucky woman to have a husband like that. Whilst all else are seeking for that non-existing-ideal-husband who's rich, famous, handsome, romantic, and what not - I'm seeking for one who's understanding, whom I can live in one roof in peace, respecting each others' preferences.
Location: Our room with blinds drawn up to let lights in
Me and Meng had a fight couple of days back. It started with him rejecting me and I went all crazy and didn't talk to him. Laid all cards and told him I'm fed up of him rejecting me and Zeddy and doing nothing but focusing on his work and studies. Told him all my frustrations about the house, about the parents, about time and everything else.
We went dinner and talked. We cried. We got angry at each other. We shouted. We did not care were not the only people in the restaurant. We poured everything all out. Then, we mended things. We came up with a plan and agreed on compromises. Were gonna save up for our house. Were gonna clean the house to avoid clutter that I dont want. He's gonna spend Sundays with me and Zeddy. At the end of the day, there's resolution to every issue if it's well presented and understood by all parties.
To all reading this post especially to parents, husbands and wife - it's a proven fact that talking things out when you both are not on fire irons out creases in your relationship. Either you work out with a plan or agree that nothing wont work. For us, don't think the latter is an option given my husband is a very rational person and listens to even the most ridiculous reasonings on things and explain to you how it is ridiculous. Then, it's up to me to understand and accept that sometimes, I am indeed ridiculous.
He stressed that we women are very difficult to understand. But he said he's willing to compromise, leave it as that and do what he can to work things out. I am one lucky woman to have a husband like that. Whilst all else are seeking for that non-existing-ideal-husband who's rich, famous, handsome, romantic, and what not - I'm seeking for one who's understanding, whom I can live in one roof in peace, respecting each others' preferences.
